After the divorce process comes to an end, you can turn your attention to providing your children with the stability they deserve. While this may be your number one priority, there’s something to remember: You probably have to co-parent with your ex-spouse.

While co-parenting is a major adjustment at first, there are several tips you can follow to ease the tension with your ex and put your children in the best possible position:

  • Think about everyone, not just yourself: Don’t make any decision before you know how it will impact you, your ex and your children. When you practice empathy, it’s much easier to get along with your ex.
  • Remain flexible: You want to stick with your parenting plan to the best of your ability, but it’s important to remain flexible when possible. For instance, if your ex asks to change their visitation days for the upcoming week, do your best to make it work.
  • Pick your battles wisely: There will be times when you have no choice but to stand up for yourself. However, if you turn every minor disagreement into a major argument, it will cause more harm than good.
  • Continue to communicate: This doesn’t mean you have to talk about your personal life or other private details. But you do need to keep an open line of communication with your ex, as this gives you the ability to discuss any and all matters related to your children. If you’re not comfortable talking face to face, opt for text messaging or email.
  • Don’t get in the way: When your children are spending time with your ex, do your best to stay out of the way. For example, don’t call your children on the phone to ask what they are doing. This is a good time for you to focus on yourself, so take advantage of it.

There’s nothing easy about co-parenting, but it doesn’t have to be as difficult as it sounds. As long as both parents focus on the well-being of the children, everything has a way of working out.

If you run into any issues, don’t hesitate to discuss your feelings with your ex. If that doesn’t work, learn more about your legal rights and the action you can take to get back on track.

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