When Pennsylvania residents divorce, the process can sometimes be more complicated if people are trying to find a good solution for their children. In some situations, one parent may realize that his or her ex-spouse is trying to keep the children away from him or her permanently.
Psychology Today says that parental alienation means one parent is trying to create an estrangement between their children and the other parent. Either a father or a mother can try to turn the children against the other parent. Most of the time, an alienating parent does not have good emotional health and may also be selfish. If a parent is trying to alienate his or her children, this person might blame his or her spouse every time something goes wrong and falsely accuse the children’s other parent. This parent might also say negative things about his or her ex-spouse and prevent the other parent from spending time with the kids.
There are many ways people can tell that their ex-spouse is trying to turn the children against them. According to The Good Men Project, children may sometimes be combative or defiant when they speak to a parent. Children might also tell their parent that they are better than he or she is and demand gifts or favors. In some situations, a child may tell his or her parent not to attend events at school or extracurricular activities. Sometimes, children may also say they do not remember a time when their parent tried to bond with them.
When parents notice their children are withdrawing their emotion or acting out, they may want to talk about the situation. It is important to remember that children may sometimes act like the alienation is their idea and not their other parent’s. It is a good idea if parents don’t react to a child’s combative behavior but instead treat their child with love. Additionally, a parent should usually not retaliate by saying negative things about the children’s other parent.